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Life today happens around  the clock, and the phrase '24-7' needs no explanation.  As we rush about our busy lives, often our spare moments are few and far between, and can be filled with a quick glance at our smart devices to 'make the most' of our downtime or of a pause in the action.

We live with 24 hour rolling news channels, in which there is no opportunity to miss the next breaking story, and also the constant chirp of social media feeds updating us with news of what our friends and family are up to.  We may even feel 'out of the loop' if we forget our phones on a trip to the open-all-hours supermarket, or - heaven forbid - our device runs out of charge halfway through the evening.

But if we never unplug, what are the risks?  Clients sometimes present in the therapy room with low mood, irritability or the inability to stop worrying about things in their lives over which they have little control.  It is not uncommon to come across a feeling of failure at not being able to cope with the daily routine, yet in reality it can be a natural consequence of 'running on empty', of taking the car on one more trip when the petrol tank is dangerously low on fuel.  This feeling of not coping is not failure, but rather our minds and our bodies reminding us that we are not as superhuman as we sometimes expect ourselves to be.

There are lots of products, ironically, that claim to allow us to run on empty, be they pills to give us an extra boost, or drinks to supercharge our efforts.  Living life 'to the max' can be for some a sign of success, yet it is often the case that the sacrifices involved with pushing the boundaries can be costly, resulting in neglected relationships, dissatisfaction and stress which is difficult to manage.

So what would be of help in such a situation?  Counselling is in part about coming to an awareness of the elements in our lives which could do with a rethink.  To become aware of our stresses, to acknowledge them and to honestly admit what pay offs they bring and what damage they can cause can be the first steps towards taking back real control and to bringing a little more balance to our routine.  Examining how 'instant-on' doesn't have to mean 'always-on', in a confidential therapeutic relationship, can help you decide how you could go about making the changes which would mean you were working smarter, not harder.

Are you too busy to be stressed?  Does it have to be that way?

Rob Oglesby MBACP (Accred) B.A. (Hons) BSc | Ashwood Therapy

Ashwood Therapy provides a discreet, confidential and professional online counselling service by encrypted video call, live instant messaging and secure email.  More details, including tips on wellbeing and information on current counselling session pricing, can be found at www.ashwoodtherapy.com

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