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Less Is More!

The other day I pulled into a McDonald’s fast food restaurant to get a coffee in order to break my trip up.  I had collected six stickers on my loyalty card, and so was entitled to a ‘free’ drink.  Approaching the counter, I handed over my full card and requested a “cappuccino, please”.  The server asked me whether I wanted a ‘large’ drink, or ‘just a regular-sized’ cup.  Now, here was a dilemma.  I still had quite a distance to go, and needed to make good time when I got back on the road.  To have a ‘large’ would potentially mean that I needed to stop for a comfort break, whereas I was confident I could have a ‘regular’ drink and drive straight through.  After a few moments I decided on the latter, and walked back to the car.  The member of staff looked a little bemused at my deciding as I did.

The well-known maxim “less is more” presented itself in my mind as I started the second half of my journey.  A few years ago I remember that McDonald’s got into something of a predicament in the U.S. and other countries, due to the seemingly appealing phrase “do you want to supersize your meal?”  Indeed, Supersize Me was the title of an insightful documentary by Morgan Spurlock, which didn’t cast McDonald’s in the best of lights.  Surely though, if something is ‘good’, then more of good is ‘better’?

Portion control, if we widen out the term to mean more than just fries and hamburgers, could be said to be important in every area of life.  Jogging, while very beneficial for general fitness and overall wellbeing, is best done in moderation.  Three times a week, good - 12 times a week, bad.  Eating oranges is something that we are encouraged to do, yet eat too many and your teeth with soon know about it.

When it comes to therapy, I feel that the same holds true.  Sometimes clients request to attend for two (or more!) sessions a week, and indeed there are some services online which promote an all-you-can-eat therapeutic experience.  As a general rule, I feel that attending one session per week, or thereabouts, is most beneficial for the client.  It has been said that ‘most of the ‘work’ happens between sessions’, and this certainly has been my experience.  Clients need time for what they have discussed in the previous session to settle in their minds, to filter through their thinking and into how they view things.  Any changes in behaviour or attitude also need time to be put into practice.  In order for changes to be lasting and sustainable, they need time to put down roots, and for difficulties with the new way of being to be faced, wrestled with and overcome.

Rob Oglesby MBACP (Accred) B.A. (Hons) BSc | Ashwood Therapy

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